Ok guys, today won't be the normal reporting as we're used to seeing on Worldstreet Journal. Today I got me thinking as a young chap preparing for the future entanglement as most times referred to by some married couples whose marriage sex lives has turned out to be hit it and quit it routine. Instead of the love and affection which the creator has bestowed upon it.
So I did some research digging to find out what could married couples (guys!!! married couples!!! ) be doing wrong or not doing at all which if known/ discovered can transform, bring freshness and Reignite the passion in their marriage.
Growing up in a pharmaceutical environment, Dad being a chemist would try advising a patient whose marriage has hibernated to contingency plan C especially when taking for granted the divine importance of marital sex. Often, the response wasn't the positive reaction you would expect from someone anxiously needing a change. As this is always considered; "can only be solved by divine intervention." If you never changed the oil in your car, would you be surprised when the engine stopped working? Once we realize that a boring sex life is not a broken sex life, that’s when we can start working toward improving intimacy in our relationships.
So, I've put together 6 ways to keep that passionate spark alive now and throughout your marriage.
They're applicable and fun task if only you make it one. Enjoy!!!
1. Intimacy is more than just sex. Touching your husband in sexy ways outside the bedroom—a squeeze here, a massage there—will remind you both that the bustle of daily life can give way to the rustle of nighttime get-togethers. Hold hands more often. It’s important to remember that intimacy doesn’t just occur in the bedroom. Set aside special times to be intimate with one another, for example, cooking together, setting aside times to give each other massages, reading to one another, dance lessons, etc. It is so easy in this busy world to become like ‘business’ partners or roommates, each of you attending to the daily tasks of running a home, family and a career. So guys, If you want to have good sex at night, start the foreplay in the morning. Try setting the mood in advance.
2. Communicate. Let your spouse know your sexual likes and dislikes in a non-confrontational way. Share with one another your sexual desires. The more both of you become more comfortable communicating your needs, the more likely you are to experiment and try new things—no one is to blame for a stale sex life but those who give up on their sex lives without giving it their all. And remember, in a marriage, you’re more than lovers, you’re also best friends; communicating on a friendship level means always choosing your words and actions with respect and care and always approaching one another in an open and honest way.
3. Make special effort! Too little time is a never ending excuse for lack of effort. So instead of telling yourself there is no time, make time. Let someone else pick the kids up from school, get takeout instead of making dinner, and take the trash out in the morning without guilt. Also, allow yourself time to relax and reflect as an individual. This will make it easier to unwind and reconnect with your inner thoughts and emotions, thus making it more enjoyable to relax and enjoy your spouse. Do not take for granted the power of a simple soft touch, a romantic dinner or a bubble bath together. These are moments that preserve the intimacy that is so essential to a satisfying life with one another.
4. Creating more playful relationships is a good first step. There’s no doubt that having fun and flirty products in the bedroom will give your love life that extra boost. For example, we all know the bedroom is a couple’s safe haven, but that doesn’t mean all of your romantic interludes need to begin and end there. Why not lay out a soft blanket in the living room, light candles and celebrate your relationship with a bottle of champagne and strawberries. After years of being intimate, many couples become almost robotic in their attempts at foreplay and intimacy. For example, there's an all-natural soy candle that melts into a soothing massage oil and is a great way to get both of you touching and massaging each other with affection and desire.
5. Override predictability. One of the biggest stumbling blocks to romance and intimacy is the tendency to become a slave to routine. It's easy for couples to get comfortable, never venturing out to try new things, or worse, never exploring new territory within the landscape of their relationship. Any activities that will encourage change and growth will more than likely bring the spark back from those endorphin-filled courtship days. Don't expect your spouse to be the only one in your marriage who is responsible for romance. You both need to take responsibility for having an intimate and successful marriage.
6. Children are gift not curse. While children are wonderful, there's no question that their arrival can put strains on a marriage. The relationship between husband and wife should trump everything else, you have to keep it strong, keep the romantic energy. Everything else comes from that. Children are beautiful, but they're not the sole purpose of marriage. That's why, they say, when married-with-children couples start to bicker or grow apart, it's time to change the patterns folks.
A very important part of a healthy marriage begins in the bedroom. Use these tips to keep it alive and well.
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